Truth statement: Every person that you know and will ever meet will fall into one of two categories. They either (A) bring you up and make you better or (B) they don’t.
Someone proposed this to me a few months ago and at first I wanted to challenge it. So I’ve been thinking about it for a while now. Surely there are some people that are in the gray area? Surely I don’t have to be black and white about people. But I’m finding it hard to disprove.
Here are some other ways to ask the question:
- Does this person give me energy, or drain my energy?
- Am I better for being around this person, or unaffected (or worse, affected negatively)?
Does the person have a personal network greater than mine or equal to mine? Strike that one, per the discussion in the comments. This one is a separate measurement.
Thinking about your network more intentionally will bring you immense satisfaction and is the best way to change your trajectory. If you want to love what you do, it starts with loving the people you are around. Loving the people you are around comes with first taking an honest look at how those people affect you.