Few people have the guts to tell us when we have bad breath or food in our teeth. We know this and don’t expect to be told. So we are sensitive to it and self-monitor as best we can. We check our teeth in the mirror when dining out. We pop mints. We try to smell our breath.
But what about your perceived attitude? Do you know anyone who comes across as constantly negative? Someone who is sarcastic, always laughing, always making jokes, but perhaps at the extent of someone else? Or perhaps they believe they are coming across as inquisitive, but are actually seen as disagreeable by those around them. We’ve all met these people and we usually don’t enjoy being around them.
Perhaps we should start thinking about what we say and how we say it with the same sensitivity as our breath and the food in our teeth.
Think back on your conversations in social settings. Look at your own Twitter stream. How many times do you come across negative vs. positive? Assume there is no gray area. Each Tweet, each comment is either a +1 or a -1. take your last 50 comments and score them.
It is statistically unlikely that if you have “bad energy breath” that someone will tell you directly. Instead they will avoid you. You will not realize their absence, but your success will be limited. We are the sum of the people we spend time with. If fewer people want to spend time with you, you understand the math.
I admit, of those people who simply chose not to be around you because you are negative person, I will be one of them.