When you decide to do something, it’s your decision. You are doing it because you “want to.” Yet, many times, we feel pressure to continue and this can be negative energy. We feel a weight on our shoulders as if continuing down a tough path has a lot of resistance.
Let’s go with exercising, waking up early, or writing regularly. Working on developing new habits can be hard work. If you miss a workout or a blog post the guilt can start, and if you miss another one, it even gets heavier.
All of this changes when you step back and realize that you decided to go after this habit because you want it. You don’t need to write blog posts regularly, you want to. You don’t need to make your startup successful, you want to. A few things happens when you realize that you made your own decision:
1. You realize that you are free to make any decision you want. You can decide not to, you can decide to continue. The important realization is that you are in charge of your own destiny.
2. The weight becomes less when you use the word “want” instead of “need.” Try it for your next workout. Think in your head that you want to go workout, and you will find it easier to hop out of bed and get after it.
3. When you lighten the load with “want” and realize you are free to opt out of the previous decision, it becomes even easier and more obvious that you chose correctly to begin with and the best thing for your success and happiness is to stick with it, continue, and make it happen.
Some people call this persistence, but I believe you have a lot more energy when you constantly remind yourself that continuing down a path (especially when there is resistance) is reminding yourself that the path forward is still your decision.