I was recently in a meeting with a group of successful entrepreneurs and the topic came up:
“What is one of the biggest things holding you back?”
One person answered a surprising, unexpected answer: the desire to please others is a limitation.
As I thought about this, my first reaction was “Well, I used to be that way, but not any more.” But when I peeled back the layers to think about decisions I make day in and day out, both big and small, I realize that whether I acknowledge it or not, the underlying tendency to take “pleasing others” into consideration as a factor in decisions is ever present.
You may be the same as me. You think that you’re making logical and objective decisions for the good of your company and your family at all times. But you probably don’t realize how much you are really motivated by making others happy, making them like you.
I think most entrepreneurs have this strong desire to please others. It’s not a bad thing, but as with any other area of emotional intelligence, if you don’t acknowledge it and accept that the tendency is there, it can be a severe limiting factor on your success.