I’ve learned a little about myself in dealing with the Newtown event and in speaking with some of my closest friends, I don’t think I’m the only one. We’ve learned that we have several coping mechanisms that are our go to… and the way we have discovered them is that they aren’t there for this one.
- Anger… in this case, we can’t identify anyone that we personally want to be angry with. We don’t have anywhere to direct that one.
- Fix it… in stressful times, we want to find a way to fix the stress. Nothing doing.
- Acceptance… in many losses, just accepting that it happened and finding peace that it was meant to be is a good way to move on. At this point, doesn’t seem appropriate.
- Talk more… in the last few days, I haven’t found that talking about this one has helped much.
- Passion… sometimes I just need to do more than talk it out, but talk it out with vigor… make a big deal, apply some of my infamous “energy” to the issue and make a splash about it. Again, I have no desire to talk big, think big, or do anything big about this numbness.
For me personally, I am left with only one outlet: time and quiet prayer.