I’ve hinted around this post before, but it just keeps coming up. I’m totally spoiled by the quality of the company I keep. Being around hungry, smart, driven entrepreneurs constantly is so incredible. But it can be so draining in social settings where it’s not the same high energy crowd.
I struggle with this because I know that non-driven people have a lot of value to add to the world, and I can learn so much from them. People are always deeper than they seem, I hope. However, here are some of the things that bug me about “how they seem” in social settings:
- Negativity. It’s so easy to complain. The government sucks. Taxes suck. Rich people suck. Poor people suck. Gas prices suck. My shirt is too small. Your shoes are ugly. This food is too salty. I have a theory that most people don’t realize the what percentage of what they say is negative vs. positive. This isn’t a pot-smoking, tree-hugging hippie liberal kind of positive. I just mean to give the bitching a rest once in a while!
- It’s not in my control. Or call it apathy. I think the reason so much negativity exists is that non-driven people view complaining as their outlet. Perhaps somewhere in our minds, we imagine that complaining about a situation is the equivalent of acting on it.
- On autopilot. Lots of folks are comfortable not having their own plan. It’s easy and comfortable to follow the plan that has come before you. High school – college – entry level job – wife – move up job – kids – change companies – build pension – retire – play golf – die. You don’t have to think, and therefore you aren’t as interested in navigating the economy or challenges in building something that outlasts your own life. You only have to navigate the next step in your pre-written plan.
- Sarcasm. Too often the humor of the less-driven relies solely on sarcasm. Sometimes this can be overbearing quantities of sarcasm. I’m guilty of over-using sarcasm as humor, I admit it. But when this is the only laughter in a conversation, it can be exhausting for the others in the room.
For the record, I don’t even like posting this post. It feels just as negative as those I’m describing. But perhaps by being aware of these downers in our social setting conversations, we can all address our view of the world and how we socialize with our friends and neighbors.